The Rising Beyond Podcast
If you're trying to protect your children while navigating an abusive ex, this podcast is for you. Because leaving the relationship didn't end the abuse, and no one prepared you for what came next.
The Rising Beyond Podcast is for protective mothers navigating the overwhelming reality of sharing children with someone who continues patterns of manipulation, coercive control, or emotional abuse after separation. Join Sybil Cummin, licensed professional counselor, who has spent the last decade helping survivors and their children navigate this incredibly difficult chapter. Every week, we share trauma-informed education, nervous system insights, protective parenting strategies, and honest conversations about family court, post-separation abuse, and healing, so you can feel more confident, more grounded, and better equipped to protect both your children and yourself.
Whether you're in the middle of family court, struggling with parenting alongside someone who continues patterns of control, or simply trying to become the parent you want to be after everything you've survived, you'll find validation, practical guidance, and hope here.
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Ep 51: It’s Not High Conflict, It’s Post-Separation Abuse with Kaytee Gillis
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The misconception that once a victim leaves an abusive relationship they are safe and can move on leaves the majority of survivors without the support they need and alone as they mitigate post-separation abuse.
In her new book, It’s Not “High Conflict” it’s Post Separation Abuse, Kaytee Gillis, LCSW shares the story of this dynamic in a gentle, yet realistic way. In this episode, we explore some of the most common themes during post-separation abuse, specifically how our current family court system not only allows this to happen but supports continued abuse. Kaytee shares some tips on how to make it through this difficult time using the N.E.B. technique for communication with an abusive ex (Necessary, Emotionless, and Brief). The importance of Never Assessing the Patterns (N.A.P.) by labeling your ex-partner as a Narcissist or using the term abuse in the courtroom. And we also discuss the all too real experience of having to respond and attend family court without legal representation due to financial abuse.
Kaytee is a psychotherapist, author, and consultant with a passion for
working with survivors of relationship and family trauma. Her recent book, It's Not High Conflict, it's Post Separation Abuse, sheds light on the way abusers take advantage of the legal system to continue their abuse.
Her blog on Psychology Today, Invisible Bruises, posts articles in support
of family and relationship trauma survivors. Kaytee has been featured on Psychology Today, iHeart radio, Psychotherapy Networker, The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show, CP24 News out of Toronto, Newsweek, Shaye Ganam, and others.
Kaytee has given trainings for The Zur Institute on recognizing patterns of domestic violence and helping survivors move forward. Trainings are available for all clinicians on her website or on The Zur Institute.
To get in touch with Kaytee:
www.kaytlyngillislcsw.com
Instagram: @KurleeKaytee
Instagram: @Claras_ _Voice – support for relationship trauma survivors and allies
Facebook: @KayteeLCSW
Facebook: Claras Voice- a group in support of relationship trauma survivors and allies
Twitter: @Kaytee_Gillis
Blog: Invisible Bruises, Psychology Today
Buy her book! It’s Not “High Conflict” it’s Post Separation Abuse
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