The Rising Beyond Podcast
Are you ready to thrive as you are coming out of a toxic or abusive relationship? Join Sybil Cummin, a licensed professional counselor who has specialized in working with victims and survivors of domestic violence and narcissistic abuse for over a decade and runs a membership community for women on their healing journey. On this podcast you will finally feel understood and your experience will be validated as you learn tangible strategies to handle family court, coparent with your abuser, improve your connection with your children, and heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse and domestic violence.
The Rising Beyond Podcast
Ep 29: What Is Post Separation Abuse?
There is this belief that once a woman leaves an abusive relationship that they are finally safe. This could not be further from the truth. And this is especially true if you share children with your abuser. When there is domestic violence or narcissistic abuse, the year after leaving can be the most dangerous time for a survivor.
Domestic violence is all about one partner gaining and maintaining power and control over the other partner. This “need” does not end once you escape or are discarded. And so a new form of hell will begin, Post Separation Abuse.
In this episode, you will learn the many ways in which an abusive ex-partner will attempt to maintain control after a victim has left the relationship including:
- Smear Campaign to further isolate their victim
- Using coercive control to continue to gaslight, criticize, shame, and blame their victim
- Counter Parent to undermine the safe parent
- Abusive or neglectful parenting
- Harassment and stalking (huge red flags for further physical violence)
- Continuing financial abuse by blocking access to funds, refusing to pay bills and child support, and quitting their jobs to limit the amount they owe
- Using the family court system to further abuse the victim
You will also learn some ways to mitigate these strategies and to start the healing process despite the post separation abuse.
Some of these things are:
- Good documentation
- Self-care that includes therapy
- Creating a safe inner circle of support (making any necessary changes to those in there now)
- Learning how to set and stick with your boundaries
- Getting your children the support they need
- Being very selective of the professionals you have in your corner
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